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Around Halloween this year I decided to participate in a discussion on Facebook with someone I have over the time made good friends, I've never met him in real life by the way, and he is a good american Christian. He was making the statement that he was concerned about that investigatements shows the main reason people wants to celebrate the Halloween tradition is escape from reality. He was also quite discoured by the fact that the tradition seems to be celebrating, as in his own words; death, murder, blood, witchcraft and mayhem, and worried about people and children getting de-sensitized from violence and brutality.

I thanked him for bringing it up and let him know that it originally derives from All Hallows Eve, from the beginning a celtic tradition, that we still celebrate in Scandinavia. A wonderful non-commersial holiday were we put candles on the graves of our loved ones and if you are into any form of spirituality, simply celebrate the saints. I also let him know that I believe that Halloween may be childlanguage of All Hallows Eve, and that the innocent fun of it might be as for children that can be afraid of death and ghosts, to for example dressing up like a skeleton, maybe can be a humorous twist on that fear. Like the cartoon Casper.

I fully agree and understand where he wanted to go with this, and after thanking me for and letting me know he appriciated my input I finally gathered the courage to tell him that I would be honoured if he honestly could let me know what he thinks about jokes around death. I attached the blogpost "Authenticity and Comedy" which explains my own thoughts around Laughter as Therapy versus Laughter of a Psychopath as well.

Have to tell you, I have been saved from execution again. He LIKED my comment. I'm so happy now.

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Now here is an another story about REAL scare city. Me and friend was to an unforgettable trip to London in the beginning of January 2003. I had just recovered from a stomach flu at that time. We were sitting at a restaurant, totally re-traumatized as usual, I can recall I was going on and on about silly worries about potential possibilities of me infecting myself through my own lipstick and so on. I will never forget the words that suddenly came rolling out of her tounge. She said: "Stop going on about that, you will only draw it to you"...

For the record of all the uninitated: It is very common and clinically well documented that emetophobes are being known to fear jinxing ourselves just by talking about what we are afraid of. It's an anxiety disorder. And for the record of all the uninitated about The Law of Attraction; here is the curse:

My friend is forgiven, she wasn't informed about my phobia at the time. But if you are positioned as a professinal life coach I have some important things I want to share with you. Whether The Law of Attraction is true and works or not, if your client already is afraid, there is no use knowing that the fear only will make it worse is it? If you actually believe this knowledge is empowering then I can tell you have never experienced scare city in your whole life. To even let somebody know this is like pushing someone that is already swaying on the rail right in the water. You are actually only affirming the fear.

I do use positive affirmations though, and it helps me a lot. Even during anxiety. But there have been hard times during depression, completely out of flow, that I have only experienced positive affirmations like some kind of opiatic powder or something. I mean really. It made me dizzy and sick. "YOU CAN HAVE ANYTHING". C'mon.....

Healing is to become whole. To be what you already are. Not to become something you are not. The effort of time slowly heals deep wounds of the soul. But sometimes you can use some immediate help. I have laught myself out of each and every misery in my life. I know it sound ridiculous and it is too. But it helps.

If your client is afraid or depressed; just be easy okay? Lead with empathic ease. Tell them a joke or recommend them to watch their favorite comedy show. Laughter doesn't solve problems but it's an invaluable source of therapy. He or she might even losen up from any resistance to see a solution. For example if your client is in deep financial trouble, show them this:

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Now respectfully, that's how you spend a rainy day!